Do you ever wonder how many lost memories you have? By this, I am referring to events that you have experienced but, over time these memories have either faded (or perhaps were not properly encoded) and thus now are essentially ‘lost’ forever. It just seems strange to me. We experience many things in our lives, yet we often to seem to remember only the bad times or the really good times. This can be unfortunate, because when remembering events we often forget the little things that brought us joy, like taking a walk, or reading a good book, or just talking with friends – all of these little memories that made us happy seem to be lost in obscurity.
You’re not special just because you suffer. Everyone suffers. You may think or feel that your suffering is somehow different, that your suffering is unique, or that you are the only one in the world going through this type of pain – but you are wrong. Many people have experienced the kind of pain that you are experiencing. There are innumerable people who have suffered the same pain that you have gone through – people who lived before you, people who are living right now, and people who will live after you are dead.
Your suffering is not unique, it is not special, and it is not different. Many people have gone through what you are going through – so your suffering does not make you unique. In all honesty this post is supposed to cheer you up – its supposed to show you that others have gone through what you have gone through, and that this ‘pain’ is not something only you have – a myriad of others have experienced it too.
One must live in pain, and yet they must also learn to see the beauty in their suffering.
Imagine a marble statue for example. The marble statue is beautiful – but it wasn’t always like this. At one point in time this marble statue was merely a block of marble – indistinguishable from any other block of marble. But over time this block of marble was chiseled, sculptured, torn apart, broken, hit and damaged until it formed a shape – a particular identity.
Likewise, your identity is largely formed through the struggles in your life and how you overcome them. Struggle is what defines you – its what motivates you. If you can learn to see the beauty in this struggle then the pain becomes bearable – to some extent it can even become desirable.
And of course, I am sure the realists will mention ‘But a block of marble has no consciousness – it cannot feel pain, unlike us humans’. They are right, a marble statue does not feel the pain and force being pressured against it. However, a marble statue is also not able to appreciate its own beauty. Consciousness of pleasure and peace requires a consciousness of pain and suffering. A person must have both – not one or the other.